Compelled

Usually, when I take my kids to school we jam out to my Ipod. Recently however, we have been listening to the radio. I can tell you that it wasn't because we needed a change in the morning routine, my husband's Ipod connection broke and since he has close to an hour commute one way I ended up giving him mine to use until, we get a new one for him. I must admit it was grudgingly at first but, I am glad he has it now to make his commute easier, after all he does it for us. So, here I was listening to a certain radio station on the way home when I heard a story. The caller had called asking for advice. She had dated her boyfriend all through high school and was upset when he broke off their relationship to go to college. Ten years later they ran into each other at a mutual friends wedding and picked up where they had left off. (Talking, laughing, etc.) However, she is now engaged to another and the wedding is in six months.She is now wondering what it? What should she do?
    I am sure that you are reading this and have some advice for this woman as well. : ) I normally don't call into radios stations on things like this but, this morning I felt compelled to. To my surprise I got through and talked to someone who then told me to hold on. I held on for what seemed like forever, many things were going through my mind and how was I going to word them? Finally, I heard the DJ ask me my name and my advice. The moment was here and I was scared! I hate talking in front of people! It terrifies me! I took my courage and knew that I had something to say and I needed to say it. In my nervous voice I said this," Marriage is meant forever. There shouldn't be what if. What if I did this? Marriage is hard enough to start out with what if. There can be no what if and the person you marry deserves your whole heart!."

 It was over I had said my peace, well somewhat. lol! I have very strong views when it comes to marriage. It is important that you know that you are making a covenant with God and your spouse. It is until death do you part and your significant other deserves you whole heart. Marriage is tough. I never said it was easy but, you and your partner can get through it by working it out together and knowing that it is commitment to one another. You have to be in the mind set that no matter the trails and hardships that you encounter you are in until death do you part. It may sound grim, but trust me it is not.

My husband and I go through things but, we both had made a commitment to God and one another that we will put him first and then the other. It is amazing the things you can do when you do that. I tend to be selfish at times (I am human) but, when I stop and think and put my husband first above me good things happen. There are so many things that I could talk about and bible verses that talk about marriage right now but, I will save them for another time.

The thought I leave you with is something my friend and mentor taught me about marriage and it has stayed with me now for years and I truly believe it has made a difference in my marriage. I was struggling with the fact that I liked my hair short and my husband did not. She told me this, "It was not my hair but, my husbands." (Yes, I am sure you are having the same reaction I did to this comment.) She shook her head and said, " When you married you became his and he became yours. So, if he likes your hair longer than keep it longer. If he wants you to wear make-up, wear make-up, if he wants you to lose weight, lose weight. If you want him to shave his face, he should keep it shaved, it you like a certain hair cut on him then he should get it, if you want him to lose weight, he should."

It is simple ladies, we get lost in the day to day of things and forget the physical things we did to attract him in the first place. Men are visual and we need to make sure we meet that need or we open the door for someone else to meet it for him.

As, I read this I have no idea how I came about talking about this. Like I said I have a lot of views when it comes to marriage. May God bless you and may your life be enriched!